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Domestic Violence: When Staying Home is More Frightening than the Pandemic Outside

Teri Karjala • May 13, 2020

Social distancing and self-isolation orders are meant to save lives, but for some, being forced to stay home could be fatal. People of all ages, genders, sexual orientations, cultures, and levels of income are affected by domestic violence, but—statistically speaking—women are at higher risk than men. The  National Domestic Violence Hotline  reports that 1 in 4 women (24.3%) and 1 in 7 men (13.8%) age 18 and older in the United States have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

With state and federal governments  continuing to recommend  that people stay home, avoid non-essential travel, and practice social distancing, millions across the country find themselves having to weigh personal safety against social responsibility.

What To Do if You Are in Danger

Despite the Covid-19 pandemic, support remains available:

  • The National Domestic Violence Hotline is accessible 24/7, confidential, free, and offers telephone (1-800-799-7233) of  chat  options. 
  • The  Stronghearts Native Helpline  (1−844-762-8483), designed specifically for native communities, is available 7am-10pm CT. 
  • The  Trans LifeLine  (US: 877-565-8860 / Canada: 877-330-6366) is available 9am-3am CT, is the only hotline staffed exclusively by trans operators, and the only service with a policy against non-consensual active rescue. 
  • The  Deaf Hotline  is accessible 24/7 through video phone,  email , and chat. 
  • The  National Parent Helpline  (1-855-2736), providing emotional support and advocacy for parents, is accessible Monday to Friday 12pm-9am CT.

Strategies to Shelter-in-Place More Safely

Though many states have recommended sheltering-in-place for weeks, it is never too late to seek support or implement measures to increase your safety. 

  • Using the  pod mapping worksheet  designed by the Bay Area Transformative Justice Collective, identify people in your life you can call on for support. They might include friends, co-workers, or family members. Consider asking people from this group to regularly check in with you about your safety.
  • If you are connected to the loved ones of the person hurting you and you feel they can be confided in safely, consider telling them what is happening. In the case of an emergency, they may be a good place to turn to for help.
  • Review the National Domestic Violence Hotline’s “ Staying Safe During Covid-19 ” plan ( también disponible en español ). 

How is the Government Supporting Abuse Survivors?

On March 27 Congress passed the  Coronavirus Aid, Relief, and Economic Security (CARES) Act , a $2 trillion dollar economic relief package which, in response to  pressure from advocacy groups , includes provisions to support survivors of domestic abuse. 

  • $2 million was awarded to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
  • $45 million was made available for Child Welfare Services.
  • $45 million in Family Violence Prevention and Services grants was agreed upon.

In addition, $750 million in grants to all Head Start programs was provided, aimed at supporting the additional needs of children and families in these times. 

Counseling for Survivors

In a time when simply making it through the day can be overwhelming, it is understandable that counseling might not be a top priority. If now is not the time, that is okay. Nonetheless, it is important to know that working with a counselor or therapist is often essential to exiting and eventually recovering from a domestic abuse situation. When the time is right,  Creative Counseling Center is here for you. We specialize in working with survivors and, if you are the victim of a reported crime, we accept Victims Compensation.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Teri Karjala is a Licensed Professional Counselor & Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the founder and Executive Director of Creative Counseling Center, LLC. Working in the field since 1999, Teri and her team of therapists specializes in counseling for those who have experienced trauma. They work with children as young as age 2, as well as teens and adolescents, adults, seniors, families, and couples.

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